Building relationships at work involves a few key steps:
Focus on Adding Value: Instead of trying to gain approval or friendship, focus on how you can be most helpful to your colleagues. Share ideas and perspectives that could make them more effective. This approach not only fulfills your role but also helps in building the relationship you want.
Invest Generously and Genuinely: The real way to build great relationships is by investing generously and genuinely in the other person. This doesn't mean you have to be overly nice, but rather, genuinely care about others and be consistent in expressing that.
Create Opportunities: Don't think of your job as fixed. There are always ways to get creative and make your job more useful than it is on its own. By contributing in the way you want to, not just the way your company asks you to, you can build relationships with other people at the company.
Leverage Your Passion and Intellect: One of the best assets you have to offer is your passion and intellect. To the right kind of person, these qualities can be very attractive. Be respectful, kind, and on top of your work, and you'll be amazed at how well people respond.
Remember, you don't build great relationships by trying to build great relationships. It's a by-product of your investment in others.